What would you do to help yourself?
Often, the first step is to educate yourself so that you understand what you’re up against. There are plenty of posts about gaslighting on the internet, or you might watch the film Gaslight or Mama Dearest. When a situation or a comment feels manipulative, write it down so you can refer back to it if you’re unsure, and when speaking with the gaslighter, be aware of their tactics and any emotional triggers they may use.
Spend some time to decide whether or not you want to save the partnership, assuming the other person ceases gaslighting. Even when it’s difficult, speak positively to yourself and be kind to yourself. When someone constantly speaks negatively about us, it can be difficult to think positively about ourselves, so practice being kind to yourself as much as possible. If you need assistance or support, seek it from a mental health professional, a helpline, or a family member.